Having a FWB is all fun and games…until you realize maybe that’s all you are.
Many relationships nowadays begin in the date hookup site
phase—even though that’s kind of the opposite of how it’s supposed to work. You’re supposed to meet someone, go on dates with them, develop feelings, and then hit the sack.
But what I’m finding more recently is that many people meet, skip the whole dating part—which I don’t understand, because if you’re a girl, it’s free food—and head straight to the bedroom, after only a few drinks at a bar.
This makes it increasingly difficult to tell if the other person really likes you after the first few hookups. You may develop feelings for them, but do they now just see you as a hookup and nothing else? That seems to be the biggest problem in the dating world today.
I have a good friend who, for some odd reason, doesn’t like to date girls. He always sticks them in the “hookup” category and gets on with his life of boning them and then having nothing else to do with them.
Since I personally have not been in nor stuck anyone in the hookup-only zone
, I asked him for some help in determining the signs that you’re just a hookup and nothing more. He always wants to make it abundantly clear that he wants nothing else, using these signs. If a lady is given these signs, she can be sure she’s just someone for him to get in between the sheets with.
#1 You only see them at night. One of the biggest signs that you’re nothing more than their go-to sex buddy is that you only see them at night. Their days are full of everything else but you, and they only make an appearance after dinnertime. If that sounds like your current partner, then chances are you’re just a hookup.
#2 All your plans are last minute. If they never make plans in advance, and are texting you at 9 PM or later to “watch a movie,” then you’re definitely not their first priority or their first option. This is a tell-tale sign that they’ve placed you in the “just sex” category.
#3 You never go “out.” Dates are not a possibility, and the two of you rarely do anything other than hang out in your apartment. If that’s your reality with the person you’re getting naked with on a regular basis, then that’s probably all you are to them. Someone who only wants sex and is already getting it is not going to go out of their way to take you on a nice romantic dinner—sorry.
#4 They never talk about their personal life. If you hardly know anything about them, their childhood, their family, or even what their hobbies are, then that’s a sign they may be trying to distance themselves so you don’t go looking for anything more than a hookup. Which is all that they want.
#5 You have never had the “talk.” If you’ve never talked about the extent of your relationship, or what exactly the two of you are, it might be because they’re avoiding the issue. And that’s probably because they don’t want to have to tell you that they’re only in it for the sex.